15 Years of Bitterness – Child Support Formula Change Case 18


This is our eighteenth case study.

This is Ang’s Story:

Ang – Please tell us about what’s going on with you?

My partner had a child to a lady from Te Puna in 1998, it was a one night stand.

I met him in 1999 and the babies mother became very bitter and stopped him from seeing the baby immediately.Told him he had to choose between the baby and me.

He went to the family court and custody was granted to her and she promised the court she would allow him access but didn’t.

I had 2 kids to my previous marriage but my ex partner lost his job which meant my child support stopped.

I continued to work and support my 2 gurls with the little bit of working for families I got from the government.

My partner has paid child support from day 1 and supported me and my 2 gurls as well.

In 2001 we had another baby and the fourth in 2005.

The mother of the child has been unemployed for the whole 15 years I’ve been with my partner but gets the top ups from the government while we work hard and have never been allowed access. We are struggling and now have been told the child support payments are increasing!

Suicidal material I tell ya!


How much did you pay on the old formula?


On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?


Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for being not happy with it?

We are struggling to support the kids my partner and I have and at no fault of our own we have never been allowed to see the child or have access to him.

The childs mother has been unemployed forever but lives on the DPB and the top ups the government provide. We have been punished for nothing.

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

The government are thieves. They don’t take into account the situations NZer’s are forced into.

They implement a formula but it doesn’t work for all. There are cunning people who manipulate the formula to their own benefits ie. living on the DPB forever and never been made to work and taking all the top ups from child support.

Parents of the child should automatically have the right to access of the child unless it can be proven for some reason one of the parents is unfit to parent.

In our case, my partner didn’t get a say the child was given to his mother, she got full custody and because my partner didn’t want her she used the child as ransom.

Ang – thank you so much for sharing your story with us.

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