Are We A Family Or Are We Not?? Child Support Case 17

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This is our seventeenth case study.

This is John’s Story:

John – Please tell us about your situation?

I have one child with my ex. My wife when we met had 3 kids, we have also had 3 together.

Our older kids have now left home. I have since I met my wife worked 60+ hours weekly.

This was my choice so my wife could be a stay at home mum, whom is now working part time now our youngest is at school.

I think CS should be based on 40 hr week, and if you are willing to work longer hours you shouldn’t be penalised for it.

I am not allowed to see my daughter without a fight so have pulled away from her because it was her that was affected by it.

I have a loan for court costs to get a parenting order which was wasted money since my ex still wouldn’t support my role as dad.

I would have my daughter to live with me but since this can’t happen I am getting penalised the heaviest by IRD and then told (yes by them on phone) that it is my fault due to not seeing my daughter!!

After mortgage, power and food and the other essentials we will struggle to pay for things like school fees, camps anything extra.

All this when I work long hours and earn reasonable money. I may as well work a 40 hour job for little money and receive more on working for families.

I am just confused how the government on one hand doesn’t want to recognize us as a family but then when filling out working for families, we are a family?

Well which one is it!! I am expected to find another $120 (a week)on top of what we already pay!

How is this looking out for the welfare of children.


One of my children will be well off the other 3 will have nothing, not even their parents at home because we will both be working every hour to pay the bills.

My ex works and her partner also works. Per household they would have the greater income with only one child(mine) which I have supported for 16 years, but this new assessment could see us lose everything.

How much did you pay on the old formula?


On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?


Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for not being happy with it?

I don’t believe it costs that much to support one child, and it shouldn’t come at the cost to my other children.

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

I would like someone to answer me how or what we are meant to do to financially afford this new assessment. IRD couldn’t and neither with the local MP office.

Do we have to sell our house?

John – thank you so much for sharing your story with us.

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