This is our thirteenth case study.
This is Gemma’s Story:
Gemma – Please tell us about your situation?
My Husband and I have been married for one year.
I am a full time travel consultant earning $34,000 before tax a year.
I have two Girls aged 7 and 9 from a previous relationship (he was abusive) and is now very difficult to deal with, he runs his own security run via Amourguard and brags regularly that he gets paid $12,000 a month in the hand, he vaguely pays his child support sometimes.
My Husband has two boys aged 13 and 7 1/2 to 2 different mothers. he also works full time, earning$38,000 per year before tax, the oldest boys mother works full time and is a single parent and earns $44,000 per year before tax, the youngest boys mother is a stay at home mother, working odd cash jobs etc.
We originally were to be paying $130 per month out to both boys. which I don’t think is enough, and were meant to be reciveing $354.00 from the girls father per month, he rarely pays it so we just don’t expect it.
Once the changes came in we found out the following
My girls who call my husband Dad (their choice) are not considered dependents of his,
The child support for the boys went up to $394.00 per month
the child support for my girls went down to $89.00 per month
We just about died, a lot of arguing ensued between myself and my husband and the boys mothers and my husband, then we received another letter in the post, according to ird my husbands income had changed and we now have to pay 497.00 per month for the boys!
So to the government I say how is it fair that because my girls biological father can hide the amount he actually earns they miss out not only from him but also are not entitled to any support from their stepfather?
And how come its OK for my husband to pay out nearly $250 per boy to their mothers, when one is a stay at home mum well supported by her husband and receives child support for his kids too they are raking it in yet we have now got no ability to save for a house deposit for all of our kids to live in?
We cant afford for his kids to come for the measly amount of time the mothers let us have.
I think that basing it on income sucks, what if the boys mothers both had wealthy husbands and their family income was over $200,000, we would still have to pay out of our already tight budget for the child because the onus falls to the biological parents, what about the mother not contributing anything??
As a result my girls miss out for the sake of his boys, robbing one group of kids for another,
How much did you pay on the old formula?
$130 paid out are meant to receive $356 per month
On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?
Receive $89 per month pay out $497
Are you happy with the new formula?
What are your main reasons for not being happy with it?
It gives the custodial parent more power and more money, it punishes those who work hard, it is not fair to claim we are a family and don’t qualify for working for families and yet claim we aren’t a family for child support they are both run by the same force IRD.
How can they have double standards?
If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?
What else would you like to say?
Why isn’t the media aware of this, has the govt paid them off to distract from this ginormus f**k up
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