Formula Bites The Hand That Feeds – New Child Support Case Study 3

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This is our third case study.

When you read what Kathy has to tell us you will realize that the financial circumstances created by this new formula have the potential to go against every core value most of us have been brought up to believe in.

This is Kathy’s story:

Kathy – Please tell us about your situation?

I have 3 kids with a 50/50 share situation – my ex as been on the dole since we have separated and appears to have never had to get a job.

Even after all this time he’s only receiving the benefit.

We share everything 50/50.

I work very hard and now have to pay for his dole as well.


How much did you pay on the old formula?

$15.35 per month

On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?

$249.50 per month

Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for not being happy with it?

I have to work – why doesn’t he?

I’m paying for a very capable man to sit on the dole while I’m having to pay $3000 per year for him.

It just doesn’t make any sense… I’m never going to get ahead and now my very hard earned money is paying for someone to sit on their arse… how does the government justify that! (I’ve put it to them!!)

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?

Share expenses and care week about.

What else would you like to say?

I have 50/50 shared care… I pay when the boys are with me – he pays when they are with him… we pay 1/2 each for extras… this is how it’s worked so far (apart from the minimal amount I’ve had to pay for child support which I’ve grinned and beared).

This is just going to cause a huge rift between us when we have gotten on well for the sake of our kids who are going to miss out now. the whole situation sucks.


Kathy – thankyou so much for sharing your story with us.

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  1. On the surface, this seems quite unreasonable. However, the principle is that children should have a relatively similar standard of living at each house when they are in a shared care arrangement. So, if one parent earns substantially more than the other, there is a rebalance via child support. The fact that WINZ has not provided the support or incentives to get the receiving parent into paid employment is another issue. Remember too that NZ has around 6% unemployment, and it is an economic imperative for some people to always be out of work… but that’s another issue altogether. I think the substantive issue the government getting their mits on child support to offset a benefit – that’s not fair.

  2. The new formula is unfair and the sad thing about this case study is that this person is having the children half of the time and providing for half of the costs, but the other parent isnt even using their money to support the children. Their clearly on a sole parent benefit, and for 3 children they must be receiving approximately $200 per week for family tax credit then can claim other government supplements for rent etc-I know people who are on sole benefit for 3 children and get around $650-$700 per week for nothing … and that is definitely not fair to others who have to work their as$es off & then have 18,24,28% of their gross income deducted (now even more with the living allowance decreasing) … if anything, the new formula should help in these situations, and people who have 50/50 care of the children should also be entitled to 50/50 of the IRD family tax credit payment … just totally unfair

  3. Thanks Helen – my thoughts are exactly as yours, however if the other parent chooses not to see their child or moves away, my thoughts are their loss, we are actually better off them not being in our lives if they leave their children behind, we have an option of contributing to our children, if its having 50/50 care or a financial contribution, man up and take on your parent responsibilities. I would rather not receive child support from an absent parent, I would rather just get on my life. Being tied to the other absent parent by child support only seems wrong. Some may think of it as getting away ‘scott-free’ but the absent parent is the one missing out.

    the best thing we can spend on our children is TIME!!!

    If the other parent lives in another town or country, then consider a 3, 6 or 12 month on / off ratio, kids are adaptable no matter what challenge you give them in life.

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