Time Their Biological Father Pays Some Of These Costs – New Child Support Formula Case 15


This is our fifteenth case study.

This is Stephanie’s Story:

Stephanie – Please tell us about your situation?

Unlike a lot of parents I am on the other side of this fence.

My husband has children to an ex wife and they have sorted between them what they both feel is a fair amount so it is done through a private arrangement which works for both families.

I have 2 children to my ex and not only did he just decide one day to walk out on us with no answers, he also cleared out the bank accounts and left us with nothing.

It was later discovered he had sexually abused both children from their time of birth.

He has not been charged as neither of the children feel they are up to pressing charges and are going through a lot.

He has made no contact at all with his children since the day he walked out into the arms of another woman.

My current husband has dealt with and helped my children get through acc reviews (for the counselling), sitting through hours of counselling, held their hand when one of them attempted suicide and stayed in hospital with them during this time as well but yet he can’t call them his children?

And they aren’t included as his dependants.

Not sure how that works, he is Dad in every way and there is no one else for them.


How much did you receive on the old formula?


On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?


Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for being happy with it?

Finally the costs that my husband has had to pay for these children is going to be met.

In addition to the costs of having and raising these children I have been unable to work due to having a child that has been suicidal and needed round the clock care.

I get no benefit for this and can get no financial help at all. My husband has picked up the costs of running the children around, the cost of their medications, the doctors visits costs and all supporting me and them.

For us its about time their biological father pays some of these costs. Nothing will ever fix what he has done to these children but the financial cost involved is going to ease, and this doesn’t even start to compare with the other costs of raising children.

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

Why have I put $0. because parents with shared care should just have everything split between the childrens costs, child support should not even come into it.

Fathers who are absent and have nothing to do with their children should pay more because the stress it puts on families is huge.

I disagree with the current situation that is in force but think that it should be worked out on a case by case situation.

Stephanie – thank you so much for sharing your story with us.

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  1. Hi there, I agree with all but one of you statements, about absent fathers having to pay more, im what you would call an absent father but not by choice, a very nasty ex wife who has corrupted the kids against me and stopped me having any contact for the last 15 years, ive paid child support and never missed a payment and now im having to pay $1000 per month for a child I cannot see, she is remarried they both work, and get my income, I have fought her lying and cheating of welfare payments over the years and the authorities done nothing, so now I get penalised more because I have no contact, and because she doesn’t earn as much as me I have to pay 92.66% of the total financial cost for the son I never see, tell me if you think that is fair.

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