Its As If He Is Still Providing For His ‘Wife’ – Case 43

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This is case study number 43

This is Michelle’s Story:

Michelle – Tell us about your family?

My partner and I live together with my 2 children whom I have full time care of.

Their father hasn’t paid his child support of $150 in over 4 months and with the new system that will increase to $400.

We both work full time to support our family.

My partner has 3 children who he pays $1500 in child support a month currently.

He has worked hard all of his life and spent time on educating himself to get ahead.

His ex wife has chosen not to work and lives with her new partner who is well paid but their income as a family isn’t taken into consideration.

With the new calculation he will now pay $2500 a month. We don’t begrudge paying child support but at that amount we are funding their elaborate lifestyle… Which we don’t have ourselves.

Unfortunately his ex has made everything a battle always as well… From having them stay only when suits her to not even providing a change of clothes

we are funding their elaborate lifestyle…


How much did you pay on the old formula?


On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?


Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for being not happy with it?

To pay that much is absurd and not a fair reflection at all of the modern New Zealand family. It shouldn’t be the parents incomes being played off against each other but the 2 families. I work full time as well to support my children but they are definitely my partners dependants too and the 17k living allowance is ridiculous.

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

Food for thought. If you have divorced (especially at their fault) Why should you continue to pay based on your current income…

Why not based on your income when you were last married to them?

Even though my partner has moved on and we are so happy together… It as if he is still providing for his ‘wife’ …

It doesn’t cost that much a month to raise children.

Michelle – thank you so much for sharing your story with us.

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