Because They are in Another Country I Have no Access to Them – Case 120

This is case study number 120

This is Mike’s Story:

Mike – Tell us about what is going on with your situation?

I have 2 girls aged 13 and 10.

They live with their mother in the U.S. after we divorced 3 years ago.

I have been voluntarily paying between $500-1000 per month to her for CS.

Since April 1st I have been assessed as having to pay her $1887 per month in CS.


How much did you pay on the old formula?

$500-1000 per month

On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?

Pay $1887

Has anything (outside of the new formula) changed that may have contributed to the change in amounts that you will recieve/pay?

Change in CS policy, number of one-off payments I am now not entitled to after a change of job.

Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for being not happy with it?

Excessive amount.

I have no problem contributing, but I want my children to be able to stay with me but because they are in another country I have no access to them.

Paying this amount will mean basically I will never see my children again as I will not be able to save the fares to bring them out to NZ, or for me to visit them in the U.S.

To think I agreed to this out of kindness as my ex wanted to go home as her father was dying has led to this..

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

The notion of paying extra because parents have, or have had the capacity to pay is what makes this system so unfair and particularly when you read of the differences in amounts non-custodial parents are being charged.

Particularly since there is no consideration of your current circumstances i.e. You get a $17k “living allowance” and the rest is fair game despite what mortgage or other commitments you may also have.

Mike – Thanks for sharing with us.

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