His Ex Partner Receives More From the Benefit than what my Partner Gets Paid in the Hand? – Case 118

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This is case study number 118

This is Jalnena’s Story:

Jalnena – Tell us about what is going on with your situation?

I am a very private person and would not dream of writing about my situation if I did not feel so desperate & upset with how the new changes have affected my family and I.

Especially this morning when we were left with $39, the day my partner got paid.

We moved to Auckland for my partners work and to live closer to his son as his ex moved to Auckland.

My partner and I have my daughter who is 9 as well as our son who is just about to start school for the first time in June.

My partner has a son of 14 who lives with his Mum on a benefit (a solo – parent with another child) although he stays with us at the weekend and all school holidays for which my partner still pays full child support for we have applied for shared care and hoping it will help us a bit but I doubt it will by much.

We would like to have him with us full time but renting a very small 2 bedroom plus tiny box room house in Auckland $440 per week which was only just about affordable before the recent maintenance increase makes this impossible to even consider a median 3 bedroom rental at $650 pw.

My partners earning can vary dramatically from between $69 –$82,000 pa but are more likely this year to be at the lower amount due to him not flying overseas for work.

I have 4 impacted wisdom teeth that urgently need to be taken out but being unable to find anything like the $3400 to do this I am in desperate pain the money is just not there.

For example, this week after tax deductions and $254 child support we are left with $600.

Take away from this $440 rent and loan payments $75. Now add in the $150 my daughters father pays in maintenance a week for her, yes we pay 70% MORE out in child maintenance than we receive, we are left with $155.

Last year we had to get a car, our old one was dangerous and unwarrantable, so we now have car payments and insurance and essential journeys per week of around $110.

Take from this power , water, phone , lowest cost internet ,school clothing , kindy fee’s , I have so little left for food its hardly worth mentioning , well under $40 to pay for all that? for a family of 4.. plus a 14 year old when he’s here.

My daughter starts school next week and needs a winter uniform , enclosed shoes , raincoat etc , where do I get the money for this? How can I send her to school without food and my son cannot go to kindy? I feel desperate and hoped that Winz could assist me.

I phoned WINZ and was informed that my partner earns too much for me to qualify for food vouchers or financial hardship help. How can this be when I am looking at the bottom line here and can see nothing coming in until next Thursday when it all starts over again?

I have been unsuccessful in applying for evening/night work, but will keep trying my partner has a good job he cannot provide for me, our son and half my daughter’s care because technically he is but IRD do not recognize it as such.

His ex partner receives more from the benefit than what my partner gets paid in the hand?


How much did you pay on the old formula?

Pay $554 / Receive $600

On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?

Pay $1016 / Receive $600

Are you happy with the new formula?


Has anything (outside of the new formula) changed that may have contributed to the change in amounts that you will recieve/pay?

My partner earned 82k last year and its dropped to 69k with him not flying

What are your main reasons for being not happy with it?

I’m unhappy because we are left with so little to survive we don’t drink, smoke, we don’t buy luxury items. all we want is to work hard earn as much as we can.

BOTH me and my partner… and afford to be in a good situation for our children and ourselves.

We want to save for a house and not have the embarrassment of having to go public about our hardship.

That’s it just to be normal really.

It should not cost suddenly extra for a child if that paying parent gets paid more? or extra because that parent is on the benefit.

I have done the calculations online in every possible scenario.. my partner would pay ALLOT less if she was working.. this doesn’t make sense and she doesn’t want to work because she has to pay day care and she’d be paid less than the dole so where is the incentive.

If we have him we’d probably get what $10 a week from her? also the online calculators are working out that we would pay less than what ird have assessed us with but they say that everything is correct on their end?

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

I have so much to say haha, but rob covers allot of good points 🙂

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Jalnena – Thanks for sharing with us.

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1 Comment

  1. If the online calculator for the new forumla says different to the letter sent out, contest it via admin review. It will likely go down.
    I feel your pain.

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