I Am At My Wits End Trying to Figure Out a Way to Get Help – Case 136

This is case study number 136

This is Ann’s Story:

Ann – Tell us about what is going on with your situation?

Between us there is 5 children aged between 18 mths and 13 years.

3 to my partners ex.

1 is from my pre previous relationship and the youngest we have together.

We are a 1 income family who supports 5 children as well as the demanding ex wifes demands.

We only have 2 children living with us full time. The other 3 come every weekend and holidays.

My partners boys we pay for schooling, clothes, books, bass etc everything associated with school.

Also pay bills for their mother so they can afford to eat (apparently).

Then we also have to pay child support. We kept receipts handed them to ird, got some money back. But we never get it decreased.

They just won’t do it. We technically have shared care, but because she won’t agree with the paperwork we don’t.

My partner is the only emotional and 90% of time financial support of my son.

His birth father barely rarely pays child support, and now he’s paying even less which doesn’t cover even a quarter of his cost.

IRD won’t tell me why it is slow low the amount he’s paying. When the review first came out it went to 900, I told them no that’s too much, I’m happy with what it was.

Now they have re-reviewed and it’s under 200.

And they do NOT class mine and my partners daughter, who is our biological daughter, as a dependent?!?!?!!


How much did you receive on the old formula?

Received $467 paid $900

On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?

Receive $145 pay $1280

Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for being not happy with it?

We are paying over 1200 a month plus pay for everything else for those children.

While we receive under 200 and receive no help from his father at all. They also do not consider our daughter a dependent.

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

This took a lot to have the courage to do, it is a rather personal matter but I am at my wits end trying to figure out a way to get help from IRD.

Ann – Thanks for sharing with us.

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