I am One of Those Parents That Pay Before The Date, Every Month and Have Never Missed a Payment – Case 130

Whakatane Harbour

This is case study number 130

This is Darryn’s Story:

Darryn – Tell us about what is going on with your situation?

I am perhaps one of the lucky ones, my finishing line is drawing near in regards to being considered a “NON CUSTODIAL – LIABLE PARENT” after almost a decade.

I have two Daughters, my youngest is 18 however under the current system I am still liable to pay until she turns 19 near the end of this year.

I have never had an issue in paying child support and strongly believe it is both parents responsibility to provide for their child / children.

I am one of those parents that pay before the date, every month and have never missed a payment.

However what I object to now is the way the assessments are formulated.

My daughter has completed year 12, and up until last week had not made any effort to get a job.

My assessment under the new regime meant my payments went up by $121 a month and yet her expenses would have decreased.

She has now got a job but because she is a “casual employee” there is no set hours each week therefore she is classed as falling under the threshold of working less than 30 hours a week. Which of course means that I continue to pay.

As I currently live in Australia, where I had a slight reprieve previously with the exchange rate being in my favour, it is now almost at parity so the increase feels like a double whammy!

At the age of 18 you can vote, drink, leave home without consent and are considered an adult so why am I still having to financially support her…?

What guts me further is that she now works for her own money and the child support I pay lines her mothers pocket.

Working off the theory of the new formulation they take both parents income into consideration, however they don’t take into consideration your circumstances and your own family situation.

Based on the new assessment amount, if the parents are to be equally contributing then this child should be driving a late model Euro car, buying clothes from a designer boutique and having a maid prepare her meals!!

It is just outright ridiculous!!

IRD Child Support are going to have some serious consequences come about from this new system, parents suffering from depression and not emotionally being able to connect with their children.

The poor children are the ones that will suffer when families are put in a situation where they just cannot make ends meet.


How much did you pay on the old formula?


On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?


Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for being not happy with it?

The hardship that it will impose on my current living situation, the extra I am having to pay is equal to one week’s groceries for my household.

My child is now less dependant as she is no longer at school, working part time and self supporting financially therefore why should I have to still be contributing?

As parents are getting older, we need to be preparing for our retirement, instead we are supporting young adults and lining the pockets of our ex partners.

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

As per the question above of how much you think is a fair amount per month per child, really that depends on how many children there are.

In a situation where there is one child, a fair amount would be higher that what it would be where there are 4 children.

Obviously there would have to be a scale as per the old system.

The living situation of the “Liable Parent” is no longer taken into consideration, forcing families into hardship.

In a lot of cases the mortgage payments alone are more than the living allowance.

For families where the new wife doesn’t or cannot work then the living allowance is totally unrealistic.

Hypothetical situation: I have one child aged 12 that I pay CS for, my income is $60k.

My new partner has one child aged 12 that she receives CS for, her ex earns $40k.

We both have a mortgage of $150k. Why does it then work out that I have to pay more than she receives?

Her child is being disadvantaged with the amount of support that she receives.

Shouldn’t the cost of raising a child be the same regardless of the income you earn?

Cost of raising a child should be a set cost regardless of earnings based on a national medium.

Another point, if my ex was on a benefit, based on that income the amount of Working for families she would be entitled to is approx $100 a week.

Therefore the government is suggesting that it costs approx $100 a week to raise a child…?

So why are we assessed to pay so much more if this is the total amount that the government would give a parent to support their child…

Darryn – Thanks for sharing with us.

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1 Comment

  1. Correction now i just been re-accessed so mine goes up $844
    per month. Where is the justice in that.
    So we take into account equally cost of care. One child costs over 20K per year.
    Hmmm it’s going to hurt for a long time.

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