IRD is Destroying Good Men While The Others Get Away With Not Paying – Case 135

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This is case study number 135

This is Deb’s Story:

Deb – Tell us about what is going on with your situation?

I left my abusive relationship in 2004 and became a single parent to my 3 children then 2,7,8.

Since then I have been the sole provider for my kids working around their sport etc to make sure they had a roof over their heads, food in their tummies, clothes on their backs. etc.

While my ex dogged his responsibilities over and over again not only to our 3 children but to his 3 older ones.

At the beginning he had the kids every second weekend and would drop in when ever he was in the area to see them then 6 months down the track he got a new girlfriend and the kids were no longer a priority, instead going overseas etc.

My son found this the hardest and starting acting up big time and with no support for me I moved to Dunedin from Christchurch to have my family close by.

The father who was too busy when we were around decided he wanted to finally be there for the kids so got me court ordered back to Christchurch for the same thing to happen for 6 months it was great and then back to nothing.

No visitations or child support.

Many court orders he chose to ignore and then in 2011 after the earthquake he did a runner to Wellington shacked up with another family and we haven’t seen or heard from him since.

The kids are now 18.17 and 13.


How much did you receive on the old formula?


On the NEW formula what will that amount be per month?


Are you happy with the new formula?


What are your main reasons for being not happy with it?

$74.30 isn’t enough for one teenager a month let alone 3. My youngest started high school this year and her uniform has cost me $815 for the winter and summer plus shoes.

If child support was a set amount per child split between both parents for the basic necessities, what do you think is a fair amount per month per child?


What else would you like to say?

This new system is a joke.

Families are getting destroyed by the system and I see many will fall apart if something doesn’t change and the fathers who didn’t pay on the old system continue to get away with it.

Nothing has changed in my circumstances I’m still the only parent in their lives the one who does everything for them and pays everything, while he is god knows where doing god knows what and still getting away from his responsibility.

I spoke with IRD yesterday as I haven’t received a payment in a long time to be told he hasn’t been paying and they cant find him to do a reassessment or attachment order.

The last I heard he owes over $100,000.

IRD is destroying good men while the others get away with not paying.

Deb – Thanks for sharing with us.

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